Step-families are very prevalent in the united states, in fact, 40% of married couples with children are step-couples (Karney, Garvan, & Thomas, 2003). Moreover, one-third of all weddings in America today form step-families.
One Random Day
It was a normal day, so I thought! I gathered my keys, locked the truck, and approached the sign-out sheet for my Stepson. I can hear cheerful sounds from the other children in aftercare as they were playing board games, and enjoying their snacks! I gestured to my Stepson by waiving my hand that it was time to pack his belongings and head out. As I turned to exit the building I can hear my Stepson saying "That's my Mom". I nearly fainted! I didn't know how to process what I heard.
Ironically, a similar situation transpired between my eldest stepson and I. We're all just hanging out, and he completed his statement with "Mom". At this point, I was convinced that both boys had given me a new title.
Prayer And Supplication
I prayed to God for guidance, and without doubt, clarity was given. I have no objection with being referred to as "Mom". For the boys, it's a term of endearment, affection, and sentiment. It's starting to feel normal, and I always smile and chuckle as it makes Zoe (my biological daughter) extremely jealous! When she feels this way, I advise her to reflect on advice given to our family a few years ago, "You can always make more love".
Everyday, the goal is to offer my love to all (5) of our children. Non-biased, genuine LoVe! I try to understand their perspective, and incorporate their point of view in family decisions. It's important that I keep a great sense of humor, and stay balanced for the sake of our family keeping a positive vibe. Informing the kids about their progress, and providing incentives for their hard work is something they value.
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